After my apology to the gay community, many people have asked, “Do you think homosexual sexual behavior is sinful?”
In times past when people have asked that question I thought the best way to honor them (and the question) was to simply respond succinctly and clearly. I still believe that to be true but what I found is that if I don’t take the time to answer with the fulness of my heart and intent, it becomes a litmus test type of question. This question often leads to instant conclusions, and lines in the sand are drawn over a simple yes or no.
For many Christians, they ask the question to find out if I am still on the same team. For some, this one question has the ability to make me a brave saint or apostate heretic. They want to know if they can trust me, and they believe this question will help determine if they can.
For some in the gay community, they ask the question to see if I am the jerk who will condemn them to hell, and insult their loving commitment to their partner. They want to know if they can trust me to be a good Christian friend who won’t judge or condemn them for who they inherently are.
And truly, I don’t want to disappoint anyone. I have no desire to insult/offend/”preach at” Christians or the LGBT community. I don’t want to be the bad guy in any way shape or form. It is from this vantage point I answer this question.
I still believe that the Creator’s intent for sexual expression is reserved for a husband and wife. This belief shapes how I live my life as a single person in that I do not pursue sexual relationships outside of marriage. I have lived a celibate life for 21 years now. To date, this has been a joyous and life-giving decision. The positives of having made this decision, for me, far outweighs the what-ifs in life.
In the past my short, direct answers and my involvement in the matters I apologized for recently led some people to believe, rightfully so, that I was more interested in declaring a truth than being in relationship with them and treating them with respect. Today, my heart is that while I shape my life around my beliefs, I would not try to impose my beliefs on someone else. I don’t want to be the judgmental boogyman for either my fellow Christians or the LGBT community. As is said often, I want to “live my faith and share my life.” I offer my answer to this question humbly and as a peer, not as a cold talking point with no intent of following through with genuine love and a personal commitment to place relationship(s) over rules.