Since we have closed down Exodus, especially right after my apology, I will sometimes get sarcastic messages (from both gay activists and conservative Christians) that go a little like this:
When are you going to go back to being gay and find a boyfriend/husband?
I know I am not what the youngin’s call “hot” ::: laugh ::: but I have even had a couple of sincere guys ask me if I would go out with them. The short answer is …
Thanks, but no. It’s not you, it’s me.
The longer hopefully more personal response is as follows: closing Exodus speaks for itself here and here. My apology speaks for itself here. I have also made known that while I am not ashamed to acknowledge I have same-sex attractions, I am not ashamed to also say that I am also attracted to women as well. That said, I don’t want to apply any sexuality labels to myself as a primary or secondary identity. I am living a celibate life as a spiritual station/decision for now. This decision is not because I couldn’t see myself as a husband and possibly a father, but because I have the choice (and right) to decide to live as a single man if I want to.
And for twenty-one years, now, and maybe for the rest of my life, I do. <– interesting take on the “I do” thing, huh?